As we roll out of bed in the morning, most of us are hitting the snooze button, wishing that we could stay in our nice warm sheets all day. Then we get up and are on auto pilot having a showing and making our way for the coffee pot. But the one thing that most of us miss in our morning routine is appreciation.
After working with many clients as well as exploring through my own experience. I have realized that going to the mirror and shouting at the top of your lungs, “I love myself, I am sexy, beautiful and brilliant”, doesn’t necessarily come that naturally to everyone. I have discovered a less invasive way to do your morning appreciation that you will actually love to do every morning.
I personally like to stand in the mirror. But you could start lying in your bed, whatever is most comfortable for you. So wherever you are is perfect I then look at each body part and say, “I appreciate you arms because you help me hug anyone I wish today. I appreciate you bum because you make it so comfortable for me to sit when I am enjoying typing at the computer or having tea with friends. I sooo appreciate you legs because you do a fabulous job at helping me hike up that mountain with my dog every morning.” I continue to go through my whole body and I love to sing it out so that my two year old daughter can play with me in it. So the fun part is that you can make it your own. Then I start to expand it out to my home, my friends, my career, and anything that I feel called to appreciate that day.
When I started to do this as well as hearing others experience, we noticed that our days just starting getting better, our self-esteem grew, our desire to eat better and drink water flourished. The more we did it the better we felt better and the easier it was to shift back to that place even when something stressful or upsetting happens durning the day.
Now you maybe thinking why the word appreciation rather then gratitude. For me appreciation has less attachment then gratitude. When I am in gratitude I still feel like I am controlling the outcome. Where as appreciation feels unconditional and more in the flow for me. But ultimately it comes down to what wording is going to feel right for you!
So now begin your day with this new amazing routine of appreciation if you feel called. After 7 days if you are willing to share. Write on here if you have noticed any changes in your life and if so what those changes look like?
Many blessings on your journey,
What I have recently been aware of is that life is so much more then something that is at face value. And the following examples really show how the choice is ours to see every situation in a new light.
When driving you come across that person who is going 20 under the speed limit and you pass by them flipping them the bird. But what you don’t know is that person had just lost their father and are on their way home from the hospital.
When you are at the grocery store and the clerk doesn’t acknowledge your existence and even ignores you when you ask for assistance. You think, “what a B*tch or a**hole.” But what you don’t know is that they just found out that the baby they were pregnant with, didn’t make it.
When you are out for lunch and the person beside you is yelling and throwing things around and making a “scene”. You think this is inappropriate in a nice restaurant like this. What you don’t know is that person has the symptoms of Alzheimer’s and is re-living a scene from their earlier years at war.
All these scenarios have the ability to have a different outcome. With small shift in perception these scenarios had the ability to transform into something magical.
When driving you come across that person who is going 20 under the speed limit. You follow them and think of them as a angel showing you to slow down and you start to think that you could also slow down in many areas in your life. As you pass by slowly, you smile at them and you see that they have tears streaming down their face. You send them love. And you go on your way with a feeling of appreciation for what just transpired.
When you are at the grocery store and the clerk doesn’t acknowledge your existence and even ignores you when you ask for assistance. You go to the flower department, buy one single flower and give it to them and say, “I hope this helps brighten your day in someway.” As you leave, they feel as though that is a sign that there is hope and that things will get better for them. They smile at you and you leave feeling the ripple effects of a simple gesture that warms your heart to tears.
When you are out for lunch and the person beside you is yelling and throwing things around and making a “scene”. You go over and offer your assistance. The person with the symptoms of Alzheimer’s thinks you are his long lost love and wraps his arms around you. You give them a hug and they snap back into the present and let go and return to sitting at the table with their family. You leave with many thanks from his family and you leave feeling full of warmth. Everyone smiles at you.
Life offers many opportunities to show up and be the best you. From holding the door, to giving someone a quarter for a shopping cart. Take every opportunity to show up as the best you that you can be and see what happens
Relationships come to the forefront on Valentines day. This is a post about how we can begin with love from the inside, which will then radiate out to all the relationships in our lives.
The true test of our relationship with ourselves is when we get involved in outside relationships. Could our friendships, romantic relationships, family, or co-worker that show up in our life be there to teach us something about ourselves? The real question is are we ready to listen? It is up to us, only us to see our lives in a new perspective, a new vantage point, here is where all the magic lies.
How often do we point the finger at what someone else did, didn’t do, or could have done? How often do we give our power to someone else hoping that they will fill our empty bucket? Putting the power in someone else’s hands doesn’t mean the job is going to get done! Usually it is never really done the way we want it anyways. When we have attachments that someone needs to be a certain way or do a certain thing we set ourselves up for disappointment and frustration. No one out there is responsible to create our happiness for us. Because as long as we are looking out there for the compliments, gifts, cards, words, expressions, reassurance, and praise we are putting our happiness in the hands of others. How freeing would it be to choose from your our perspective to be happy? That everything else that came your way is just the icing on the cake.
How fair is it that we expect people to be someone who they are not? Yet we find ourselves in a daily cycle of attempting to control people and outcomes till we drive ourselves crazy. What would happen if we let go of the expectations that anyone needs to be our anything and love them for who they are? As we learn to authentically love them just the way they are we are learning how to love ourselves unconditionally as well. For everything we love and hate in another is the exact thing that we love and hate in ourselves. Some may think ‘but I am not like that person at all’! Well maybe were not that person in the way that we think. Lets say there is someone at our work who talks and talks and is the center of attention. We are shy and introverted and we can’t stand them. They could be reflecting our need to be heard and seen… So we could control the person at work to not talk so much, but why would we when we can acknowledge our need to be heard and take action on doing that for ourselves. Rather than attempting to control people and circumstances, which only causes suffering.
We are all walking around with mirrors on us. So it is our choice to see this as a fun game to learn and grow within ourselves or we can see it as a living nightmare. Our choice. Our choice to let go of the need to control others and just learn from them, love them. Whenever we are hating or resenting someone, we are hating and resenting a part of ourselves. We can learn to love these parts of ourselves. When we take the time to love ourselves, it is easy to see the beauty in everyone; for we are all pure love expressing ourselves to the best of our ability with the tools that we have at the time.
So lets challenge ourselves to say ‘thank-you’ for every person and situation that show up in our lives. The people that cause the most trigger within us are our biggest teachers to show us how to unconditionally love parts of ourselves.
Thank-you everyone for showing me how to love myself more deeply and completely.